Discover Why You’re Holding On To Specific Person Or A Situation

Sometimes it can be super challenging and seemingly impossible to let a person /situation go. 

Emotionally there is this strong bond between us and this person / situation, even though mentally, it might seem logical that it is crucial to move on.

We don’t want to admit it and so we find excuses to stay in a place that makes us feel miserable.

And there is no difference if we’re married, in a relationship or dating.

At some point however, we will most likely get to the point where we’re willing to look closer as we simply suffer too much in the situation. 

To get to the root, awareness is the key and the willingness to be brutally honest with ourselves.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself and contemplate on.
Once you shine light on the reason(s) and underlying patterns, they can dissolve.

Why? Why am I holding on? Why am I here?

Ask yourself: Why am I here?

Is it out of fear or out of love?

Am I afraid of being alone? 

Am I afraid of the unknown once I’ve let go?

Am I afraid of hurting him or someone involved?

Do I simply desire to keep my family together?

Am I afraid to accept that I made the wrong choice being with this man or in this situation in the first place?
Am I afraid of the feeling that I wasted a lot of time when I'm going to turn around?

Are there co-dependency structures and patterns from my childhood that I’m repeating again and again?
And do I hold on to him / this, because subconsciously, I still want to prove to myself that I’m worthy and good enough.
And by getting and convincing this man about how great a person I am, and once he finally recognizes it, I accomplished my mission?

Do I really, truly love him?

Why do I love him?

What do you get out of this connection?

What are my needs actually? 

Are those needs met by holding on?

Once you have a clearer perspective on potential reasons, there are several approaches in order to shift your energy and cut the emotional bond to him.

And I am here for you.
If you wish some individual coaching with me, book a free call.

Love, Stephanie